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Condemming with Praise

I've been reading a little about how praising kids can be damaging lately. I've been doing the reading on the internet and failed to remember where I read any of it, but my executive summary is interesting. I suppose it all makes sense if we think about it, but we don't normally think as much as we ought to about the praise we give.

Praising a child for being intelligent makes no more sense than praising them for being tall/ short. Unlike complementing a child's stature, praising a child's intelligence, or sporting ability, can negatively impact their achievements. Tell a kid they're smart and they'll assume every intellectual endeavour ought to be easy for them, and shirk challenges where there is a risk of failure.

On the other hand, tell a kid you're proud of how hard they've worked on something, and they'll feel good about applying hard work to other challenges that come their way.

Posted on 2015-02-03 12:19:40

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